Could you tell me a time you felt self love?

I didn’t realise that I had lost all feeling of self love until having therapy after a traumatic relationship breakup two years ago.

My partner had been suffering with depression for sometime, and it wasn’t until his diagnosis of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that the gravitas of the situation hit me. It was the first time I truly acknowledged how much our relationship had broken down, how I was no longer ‘coping’ and that I needed to take care of myself too.

I sought counselling which enabled me to reflect on the past 7 years, and the reality that I had completely neglected my own self worth. I had been living my life the way someone else wanted me to, up to a point where I had lost who I was. I had stopped loving myself.

Ultimately, it was decided the best route moving forward for us both was to separate. The time on my own gave me the opportunity to think deep about who I was, what I really wanted and where I wanted to be. It wasn’t until I moved and settled down that I began to feel self love. I realised that I had to love myself for the sake of my own mental wellbeing; how could I pour from an empty cup?

Now, I practice self love daily. I set boundaries and speak affirmations which I find incredibly empowering. I never want to lose who I am again.

I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.